International Women’s day: I want to celebrate women I love

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I love women. I freaking love women. They are inspiring, smart, strong, and impressive. I love how diverse they are and how their differences make this world sparkle. I love them for being themselves, with makeup or not, with children or not, with a sexually active life or not, with religious beliefs or not. I love them for making me want to be a better person, not only a better woman.

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Why portraying Amy as a popular girl has a deep meaning

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I am coming back with a nice subject to talk about: being recognized and loved by others for who you are. It is not an easy topic and this issue seems pretty recurrent nowadays. I, for my part, struggle with socialization and people’s opinion about me, I often question my place and purpose in this universe, and I wonder what I could bring into the light or why people should like the person I am. I am not confident. I am smart but I can’t be proud of it without being told to stop showing off. I am hardworking and I love studying, but people consider my pastimes like a burden, not like a pleasant moment, and they keep complaining about me not going out or not doing what normal young people do. But yesterday, between two classes, while I was inside on a bench, trying to escape from the cold wind, I took twenty minutes to watch the last episode of The Big Bang Theory and I must say it warmed my world up.

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Happy one-year anniversary, GrokNation 🎉🎈🍰

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I come back to celebrate the one-year anniversary of GrokNation, yay! *clap clap clap* *confetti* *we did it* *high five* *boob five* *Sheldon’s koala face* *unicorns flying in the sky* *sounds of lightsabers*  *rain of fluffy animals* *dancing like Blossom*

Watch me dance like Blossom Russo to support @missmayim and @groknation!! I got a new shirt and a notebook from @cznd!! 🙌🏻 It is a gift from me to me to celebrate the end of the semester. I survived exams, demonstrations (this cliché about French people is true), and an awful administration, I totally deserve a reward! 🤓🍭 Btw, go read the last article of GrokNation (certainly in Mayim's bio). It is about mental illness and it is the real story of a little boy who has anxiety and lives now a happier and easier life. We learn why his parents never knew when he felt bad and why he didn't tell anything: he didn't know he wasn't supposed to be feeling that way. If you suffer from mental illness, I think you understand what he means. We always try to find a reason to what we feel. At some point, we end up thinking that what is going on inside of us is normal and happens to everybody. But well, we are wrong. This article may help some of you. It could be a support. I know what I am talking about… When your family or even your former teachers ask why you can't go to a crowded place, why you are often so anxious and tired, or if you lost weight (for the 4th time in a row), it is always nice to connect to somebody else. 🙂 Take care. #mayimbialik#imwithmayim#groknation#grokite#blossom#dance#hyperlapse#thebigbangtheory#tbbt#amyfarrahfowler

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(Click here to read the article I was talking about in the caption)

Now that you picture the scene, you are ready for the following. A year ago, I wrote for the first time about GrokNation, explaining why I thought this website was groundbreaking. Since then, I have not only supported Mayim’s honesty and followed her journey with enthousiasm and surprise, but also have discovered faces of GrokNation I never imagined.

Diversity

The website offers an amazing spectrum of subjects, writers and opinions that is not negligible. It is pretty easy to find what you are looking for as they propose to grok about racism, feminism, parenting, pop culture, relationships, sex, mental illness, Hollywood, and this list in non-exhaustive. You have also the chance to meet new writers besides Mayim, each of them bringing their experience and opinions to the topic of their choice. Mayim also does some videos and interviews you should see and read.

Intellectual stimulation

I can’t tell you how many times I clicked on a GrokNation post thinking I wouldn’t understand the subject, or thinking it wouldn’t interest me and I wouldn’t discover anything new. I was wrong every time. It is not because you have never heard of something or because you don’t care that it isn’t worth the try.

What I have learnt is that disagreeing with someone can be healthy. It is hard for me to write that, haha, but yes, it can. IT IS FREAKING CHALLENGING, but you learn much more when you are able to listen to someone and respect that they won’t change their mind. I can’t deny, it affects you sometimes, but you don’t have to carry the negativity of a person you will certainly never meet or speak to again. And if it is someone you want to befriend, work it out together. See this as a possibility to explore all the faces of the society you live in. If you want to change things, you have to know why your “opponent” see them differently. Just look at the comment section and you’ll see that most people share in a respectful way, even though they disagree. I perfectly remember that time GrokNation posted about abortion and several women said they were against the abortion for themselves and every woman should have the chance to choose and do whatever they want with their body. I think that, for some of us, it is pretty complicated to be that comprehensive and open-minded.

Making friends (!!!)

I love being alone. I love reading, drawing, walking and dancing, and all of that doesn’t require a partner. But the fun really began at GrokNation when I started making friends with other grokites from across the world. We basically speak on Twitter or Instagram now as we share art (shoutout to Regina‘s account because I am just in love) and thoughts about what we have in common.

We help each other and laugh together. And kind of fangirl together. Squad goal, as Sarah would say! The perfect example is that night we were all worried not to be able to watch Mayim’s Christmas movie as we don’t live in the US. We didn’t know each other for long but we were in the same boat, a sinking boat. The link we had stopped working 5 minutes before the movie started but fortunately, we found a way to watch it together anyway. We had woken up at 2 or 3 am and I remember having my cup of tea on my side and chatting and tweeting during the whole movie, trying to take screenshots of our favorite moments or to choose between hugging the huge teddy bear or Mayim (Ryan McPartlin wasn’t even in the equation).

Besides having fun online, we also grok. Deeply. Like, really. Mayim wrote about GoT one day and my first thought was “she has been keeping that for so long in her mind that she has just written the best article I have ever read.” To me, it is one of the most elaborate, precise and heartfelt she has posted. The other ones concern her father, which are very musical and poetic. You can almost hear her voice whispering a song. Going back to GoT, I spent an entire day to discuss the pointed issues with two grokites on Twitter, Aurélie and Tamara, who have been very supportive and involved in every conversation we have had. We asked each other questions in the most honest way, trying to understand what could it mean to us but also to the society in general. It is typically the kind of moment when you realize you can discuss tough topics without judging or belittling someone’s opinion just because it is different from yours. To be honest, this is very hard for me to keep calm when people don’t see the importance of feminism or education for example, but I am working on it. :) GrokNation is a good school.

Sometimes I wish I could cross the street and meet with every grokite I know around a drink so that we could discuss and have fun together. When you belong to a community, it is pretty easy to meet the other members and get to know each other, but our group is virtual and is not based on one particular aspect of our lives. If you love dancing, you enter a school or an association to learn and share your passion, but GrokNation has no specific interest, there is not an only reason to be part of. You read their posts because you love Mayim, or TBBT, or science, or nerdiness, or jewishness, or political thoughts, and I can go on. Our community is pretty eclectic, which is the best thing I could have imagined.

It is time for me to wish a happy anniversary to GrokNation for once and for all. It has been an amazing year and I am sure the following won’t be disappointing.

I wish you as much happiness as I had during this whole year grokking with grokites-friends. Take care and light up the world!

Marion

The Big Bang Theory: why do we always mock Amy’s feelings? (and more)

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Did you watch the last episode of TBBT? Firstly, you should because it is a really nice one. You see a bit of each character and enjoy simple moments with them all. Secondly, and this is the most interesting, Emmy4Mayim gave me the idea to write about it. Why? Because I agree with her statement: we always mock Amy’s feelings for Sheldon. And that’s enough.

I have always supported the show, finding the jokes hilarious and being amazed by how every character has its place and succeeds to evolve at its own pace. But here it is, I don’t understand why we need to belittle Amy every time she tries to express her feelings. Not only in this episode, in many others too, she is the one that ends up frustrated, put aside, as if her opinion wasn’t important or too “Amy-kind” to be taken seriously.

I am sure you noticed that there is always a joke after Sheldon expresses his feelings, never when Amy does. She is careful with her words, it is very important to her to say exactly what she means with as much love and kindness as she can. She cares about how Sheldon is going to react. Instead, his inuendos and his words often have a double meaning. He keeps giving false hope to her without thinking she could be hurt. She keeps waiting. 

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When I entered a synagogue for the first time

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Check my precedent post, I explained why I wanted to enter a synagogue! In the meantime, my friend called the president of the Israeli association and he proposed us to come on Wednesday, 16th at 6.30pm, just before the service. We went and I have a lot to tell about what I saw there and what happened exactly!

 The day before, my friends and I were working on the observation grid for our socio-psychological research with our teacher when a girl jumped into the conversation. She had heard we wanted to observe women’s behaviors and participation to the service and she was afraid we couldn’t make it. She said it would be complicated for us to attend a service and she asked where we were going. In a sudden, all the words I had pronounced since the beginning went through my mind. It was clear she was Jewish and I wondered if I had said anything wrong or disrespectful (yes, it seems we only care about what we say when people can hear us…). Obviously, she was interested in our work, she even said it was pretty nice and she explained what we could expect from that immersion. She has been very helpful and sweet.

Something impressed me to be honest. She stopped working on her own observation and sat with us to explain that next Thursday would be the celebration of Purim. She took time to describe what would happen and encouraged us to go (there will be kids all dressed up and challah, of course I want to go!). It impressed me because I think faith is personal. You barely share with strangers about your habbits, your traditions or your spiritual beliefs. I feel grateful she was open to dialogue and even eager to speak sincerely of her community. I still feel a bit confused because it is not the same to read about Judaism or speak about it with people online as sitting with a real Jew made of bones and flesh and listening or asking questions to her. It is kind of a challenge, in fact. For example, I like speaking about Judaism because I believe it is all about questioning yourself, but when you are in front of someone who could tell you “no, what you are talking about is not exactly the truth”, “you didn’t understand the meaning of the Hebrew word” or “what, you don’t know that?”, you feel a bit insecure. But believe me, curiosity wins.Read More »

I will enter a synagogue, want to know more?

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In the next posts, I will write about my first time in a synagogue, how I got there, why, and especially how I feel now about my experience. Don’t hesitate to share your opinions and questions, I look forward to talk with you!

Here is how everything started.

For the second semester, I have to do an obversation with two of my friends for university. When we had to decide what we could observe, I came up saying “what about religious places?” and we all ended up thinking that would be very interesting. We are atheist, not even raised in catholic faith, but we enjoy discovering new perspectives and ways of life. To say the truth, I wanted a reason to enter a synagogue and understand how Jewish communities work. Being in touch with several Jews, their traditions and ways of thinking have aroused my curiosity and I thought that doing a sociological/psychological analysis while being in a synagogue would be a complete delight.Read More »

Grok with us: do you consider yourself creative?

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According to my dictionary (yes, I am the kind of person who looks for definitions in paper books in the age of the Internet — we don’t all have the same rebellion), creativity is the capacity, the ability of invention, imagination. This definition seems incomplete.

For me, creativity is all about emotion, in its expression as much as in its realization. It implies subjectivity, interpretation, reactions and feelings. Sometimes your art is so bad you get angry about your lack of talent, but you simply realize you didn’t put any emotion in it and that’s why you couldn’t like it. Sometimes your art is so delicate or wonderful you don’t know if it comes from the work you have been doing for years, your lucky star, or your magical powers. Art is truth, art is who you are and is worthless if you lie.  As Saint-Exupéry wrote: “One sees clearly only with the heart. What is essential is invisible to the eyes.” I think this is one of the best definitions of creativity.

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Rachel Bloom & Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

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♪ West Covinaaa, Californiaaa…

I come back with a delightful article as I am going to talk about my new crush, Rachel Bloom, and her comedy-drama series, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, for which she recently received a Golden Globe Award and a Critics’ Choice Award for Best Actress. *clap clap clap*

To make it short, Rachel Bloom plays Rebecca Bunch, a brilliant lawyer who lives in New York City and needs change in her life. For years, she followed her mother’s advice to be the best, and we meet her just before she gets promoted to associate in her law office. But, by a mysterious but lucky coincidence, she runs into Josh, a guy she dated for two months in summer camp. Seeing him, in that beautiful light, with his bright smile, constantly using the word happy to describe his former life in his hometown, West Covina, California, whereas New York is tough, cold and stressful… Him saying he wants to go back there and be happy, happy, happy… His words sound like a proposition to Rebecca, he wants her to settle there. Without a second thought, she takes a flight without explaining to anybody the real reason of her arrival to…

 …West Covinaaa, Californiaaa ♪

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Sexuality and Gender Identity through “Carol” and “The Danish Girl”

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It has been a long time since my last update (studies first, you know) but I come back with a very important article about what is still so, so taboo in our societies nowadays: sexuality and gender identity. I already wrote a piece about sexuality, using The Big Bang Theory to illustrate relationships, but writing about transsexuality and homosexuality is very different, even if I tend to deny it.

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Book review: Middlesex by J. Eugenides

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I hope you’re having a good time with your family and friends at this time of the year. Celebrate love, kindness and the new year with joy. May 2016 be wonderful.

It is the first time I speak about a book here and I am starting with a big one: Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides (high-five GrokNation, as always). First, I don’t think you need to have read the book to keep reading my post. You will discover the characters through my eyes and understand why this book is important for me. To be very succinct, you discover a lovely Greek-American girl, Calliope, through three different but very related stories: her grandparents’, her parents’ and her own one. From the escape from Smyrna, Turkey, to Berlin, Germany, including several cities of the United States, you follow the path of a young teenager who struggles with her gender identity. Well, it is not totally true. She first struggles with her sexual orientation before finding out about her hermaphrodism, at the age of 14. To be very precise, Callie is an intersex man with 5-alpha-reductase deficiency, meaning he has some feminine traits but, for example, will never have his period. He is the narrator of his own story and goes by Cal. With his eyes of a grown man of the beginning of the 21st century, he pictures his evolution and recounts what has made him who he is now.

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